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Perseverance | [QUOTE]


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Spreading his ashes.

About a month ago, my girlfriend spread the ashes of a dear childhood friend into the sea…

Shortly after that we got into an argument…

Hours after that she left the above quote on my desk…

…I am blessed by her continued thoughtfulness and selflessness.

“The force of the waves

is in their perseverance.”

– Gila Guri

 

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Do You Need Peace Right Now? [JESUS CALLING, DEVOTIONAL]


So to me, these two devotionals are what Jesus is all about.

As a child I grew up to believe that the Lord was some sort of angry God waiting to cast judgment on my every decision. The Jesus Calling app has led me to a different understanding.

He is a Lord who cares and is empathetic. He laughs when I laugh and he hurts when I am sad.

These devotionals have helped bring me through my valleys…my times of worry, anxiety, and pain.

I’ve posted these devotionals from my journal in the hopes that they touch the hearts of my friends who feel like I used to (and sometimes, still) feel-

♦  I grew up, and still struggle with shame and guilt

♦  I still struggle with my self-image

♦  I was angry, especially at God – sometimes my current circumstances

♦  I felt lost 

♦  I hated going to church, and I hated when other Christians judged me and pressured me

♦  I struggle with depression and feelings of worthlessness

If you need peace in your life RIGHT NOW, I encourage you to get the Jesus Calling app and search “Peace”. Thank you for taking the time to read this and passing it along to others.

-Chris

Peace devotional from the Jesus Calling App, 19 March

Peace devotional from the Jesus Calling App, 19 March

Peace devotional from the Jesus Calling App, 19 March

Another devotional on Peace from the Jesus Calling App, 2 April.

 

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Three Reasons You Need To Prune Your Life Right Now!


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What do you have in your life that is preventing you from achieving your potential? What in your life RIGHT NOW is preventing positive growth?

Maybe it’s a job that is pushing against a glass ceiling? Or perhaps a marriage that has turned neglectful and abusive? How about a friendship that has become toxic? Maybe you need to reexamine your spending habits and cut costs somewhere? Whatever it is, you won’t be able to achieve your full potential because you’re investing your energy, time, and resources into these areas that are hurting you in the long run.

Perhaps it’s time to cut some things out. In chapter 2 of Necessary Endings, Henry Cloud compares this to the necessity of pruning for the gardener. When gardeners prune, they do so for three reasons-

1.   There is too much growth.

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Sometimes the gardener has to prune perfectly fine flowers. Maybe these blooms have achieved all they are capable of and will soon start to whither and die, depleting nutrients that could otherwise be used for the growing, thriving part of the bush. If these fully bloomed flowers continue with the bush, they will prevent the growth of the younger buds and blooms, causing them to be blocked out and suffocate.

♦   Implication #1 –  Are you juggling too many things at once? Involved in too many relationships or clubs with no time left for yourself or the things you really want to do? Do you feel overwhelmed and disoriented. I used to be a social media fiend…totally addicted and consumed. When I was in the mental institution for a week I was cut off from all social media and electronics. What a freeing feeling – I could concentrate on ME and work my way back towards stability.

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Thas Righ’, Git Rid Yo Baggage. [QUOTE]


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What Is The Most Important Thing You Need To Make A Necessary Ending? [BOOK REVIEW]



Necessary-Endings

I recently wrote a post about a concept Dr. Henry Cloud discusses – necessary endings. His book Necessary Endings, was SO influential that I decided to make one of THE MOST pivotal decisions of my life. Two chapters in particular (5 and 6) clinched things for me and when I read them, the film came off my eyes and the answers became crystal clear.

I want to share these two chapters with you over the next few days.

For the rest of this post I’d like to take you through chapter 5, and reveal THE MOST important thing you need to have in order to make a necessary ending. I plan on doing the same for chapter 6 in a few more days.

I am really looking forward to having a dialogue in the Comments section of each post so if you’re game and want to join along, GO GET THE BOOK ALREADY! http://www.amazon.com/Necessary-Endings-Employees-Businesses-Relationships/dp/0061777129. I hope you enjoy hearing about his book as much as I enjoyed reading it. This is going to be a lengthier post so grab some coffee, or tea (with milk or lemon if you’re across the pond), find a comfy spot to read, and enjoy!

What Brought Me To My Necessary Ending?

The pivotal decision I made was to end my marriage. A little history (and herstory) is needed for background, and to put things in perspective… Read the rest of this entry »

 

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“Lion’s Den”, Eve 6 [Video, Lyrics]



A chorus of hope perhaps? We can make as many fresh starts as we need to.

“Lion’s Den”

High IQ
Loaded dad
Private schools
Brand new jag
The future is so bright, you’re wearing shades inside
You feel lost
Don’t know why
Hallmark ads make you cry
All these expectations crowd your mind at night
Now you’re looking to the world to save you
Feeling terminally unique
Brother I can hardly blame you for falling asleep

Tear up your certificates
And throw them to the sea
Let’s reclaim our innocence
And live in harmony
We can leave the past behind
And make a brand new start
Walk out of this lion’s den
Before we’re torn apart

Pretty face
Long brown hair
Slender waist
How they stare
A ring around your finger and a pain inside
You feel lost
Don’t know where
he goes at night
But he’s not there
You stay up and remind yourself that life’s not fair
Cause you thought he was the one who could save you
But he’s really nothing like you’re dad
Sister I can hardly blame you for being mad

Tear up your certificates
And throw them to the sea
Let’s reclaim our innocence
And live in harmony
We can leave the past behind
And make a brand new start
Walk out of this lion’s den
Before we’re torn apart

The sun goes down around us
We smile and nod but we walk alone
We lie here waiting for the ancient fear to loosen its hold

Tear up your certificates
And throw them to the sea
Let’s reclaim our innocence
And live in harmony
We can leave the past behind
And make a brand new start
Walk out of this lion’s den
Before we’re torn apart
Before we’re torn apart
Before we’re torn apart


 

Patience [Quote]



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“Better Days”, Saliva



Another positive message for all of us warriors!

“Forgive yourself
Break the chain and separate
Let it go I’ve had enough
Rise above”

“Better Days”

Take a lesson in pain

From the man who’s seen both sides
I make the best of worst
And it hurts but it gets me by
We’re all alone on this road we travel
And everyday is like an uphill battle
Take a lesson from the man who’s seen it all

Forgive yourself
Break the chain and separate
Let it go I’ve had enough
Rise above

I can’t change what I’ve done
So leave the past where it lays
I’ll get through this
I’ve clinched my fist and I’ll find another way
You know you can’t win them all
You got to play through the rain
You can’t just grasp at every strum
You got to reach for better days

Done time and mind
Tried to hide it all inside
Did the best that could
Even when I couldn’t get it right
No one sees the scars when it’s over
I turn the page of the rage so there’s closure
Take a lesson from the man who’s seen it all

Forgive yourself
Break the chain and separate
Let it go I’ve had enough
Rise above

I can’t change what I’ve done
So leave the past where it lays
I’ll get through this
I’ve clinched my fist and I’ll find another way
You know you can’t win them all
You got to play through the rain
You can’t just grasp at every strum
You got to reach for better days

Forgive yourself
Break the chains and separate

I can’t change what I’ve done
So leave the past where it lays
I’ll get through this
I’ve clinched my fist and I’ll find another way
You know you can’t win them all
You got to play through the rain
You can’t just grasp at every strum
You got to reach for better days


 

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In What Season of Life Are You?



Seasons. We all have them in our lives. Just like the earth has seasons.

A Spring.

A Summer.

A Fall.

A Winter.

You’re in a season right now. And I’m in a season right now. In our lives, we are either planting, growing, harvesting, or lying fallow. 

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Think about your:

♦  Relationships

♦  Jobs

♦  Hobbies

♦  Interests

Maybe you’re in a “Spring” and starting that new job?

Or maybe you’ve moved to the “Summer” of a relationship that’s been growing and blossoming into something beautiful for some time now?

Maybe you’ve arrived into the “Fall” of a hobby? A time where you’ve reaped the rewards of your investments and you’re able to rest for a season and reflect on lessons learned.

It helps to understand the season you are in.

Spring – You’re busy planning and planting. Deciding what crops to grow and how you’ll arrange them in your fields. Which ones will you keep to feed your family? Which ones will you sell at the market to make a profit?

In life, we plan if we want things to be effective, hold value, and be successful. We don’t rush into buying a house just because we like the color. We research the area that surrounds it. We look at what other houses in the area have sold for. We look at what schools our kids will be going to.


In what area of life are you planning and planting right now? What will success look like? What will happen in the summer as a result of your efforts now?


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Do You Have an Envelope of Hope?


NOTE TO READER: This post discusses my suicide attempt. If this is a trigger please do not read it. Thank you and may peace find you in the valley you are currently travelling. 

What part of your crisis plan helps you the most?

A few months after I was released from the psychiatric unit, I revisited  my attempted suicide with my friend who removed the belt from around my neck. She’s one of my angels from that night. Because of her quick response to my text telling her “I want to die tonight”, I am still alive.

Her name is Chelise.

She will always be a part of my story.

Since the one to two days after that night was a complete blackout for me (the bottle of sleeping pills was exiting my system), I asked her if she would fill in the gap from her point of view. This is an important part of my testimonial. She was gracious to email me her journal entry she wrote the night after I hanged myself.

As we were talking, we both came up with an addition to my crisis plan. She wrote a letter that I promised I would read when I felt Specter (the personification of my depression) crawling out of the shadows of my soul. Being a woman of faith, she also wrote a series of index cards with scripture on them.

This is my Envelope of Hope.

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What do you have in place that you use in your crisis plan?

 

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Where is YOUR happy place?


Hi folks. Thank you for stopping by for a few moments.

We all have them. That space that offers us a pause button in our push button life movie. A sort of solitude we slip away to from our stormy waters. A retreat from the catacombs of depression. Though our Specter still latches into us, riding us wherever we go, we can still go to this place and feel…“better”?

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I said something out of anger yesterday. These FOUR letters changed my life!

I said something out of anger yesterday. These FOUR letters changed my life!

HALT

 

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